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I recently had the opportunity to read ‘It’s Not You Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People’ by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, and I must say it has been a transformative experience for me.

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This book is a beacon of hope for those who have found themselves entangled in toxic relationships with narcissists. The author, being an expert in the field of narcissistic relationships, provides valuable insights into understanding these complex individuals and protecting oneself from their harmful effects.

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One aspect that resonated deeply with me was Dr. Ramani’s explanation on how a narcissist’s behavior is not a reflection of the victim, but rather an inherent trait of the narcissist themselves. This acceptance was pivotal in helping me let go of self-blame and move towards healing.

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The book is well-structured, making it easy to follow along as Dr. Ramani unpacks the telltale behavioral patterns of narcissists, offering strategies for becoming gaslight resistant, setting realistic boundaries, and recovering one’s sense of self after constant invalidation.

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What I found particularly helpful was the practical advice on how to discern unhelpful behaviors from narcissistic behaviors. This has been instrumental in helping me navigate my current situation more effectively.

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Overall, ‘It’s Not You Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People’ is a must-read for anyone who has experienced the toll of a narcissistic relationship. It offers a healing path forward and encourages readers to embrace their true selves.

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  • BESTSELLERFrom clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissismAN OPEN FIELD PUBLICATION FROM MARIA SHRIVER
  • Its not always easy to tell when youre dealing with a narcissistic person. One day they draw you in with their charm and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-esteem, and leave you wondering,
  • What should I have done differently?
  • As Dr. Ramani explains in
  • Its Not You
  • , the answer is: absolutely nothing.Just as a tiger cant change its stripes, a narcissist will not stop manipulating and invalidating you, no matter how much you try to appease them. The first step toward healing from their toxic influenceand to protect yourself from future harmis to accept that you are not to blame for their behavior.Drawing on more than two decades of studying the landscape of narcissism and working with survivors, Dr. Ramani explores how narcissists hijack our well-being and offers a healing path forward. Unpacking the oft-misunderstood personality, she reveals the telltale behavioral patterns that indicate you may be dealing with a narcissist. Along the way, youll learn how to become gaslight resistant, chip away at the trauma bonds that keep you stuck in the cycle, grieve the loss of these painful relationships, create and maintain realistic boundaries, discern unhelpful behaviors from narcissistic behaviors, and recover your sense of self after constant invalidation.Thriving after, or even during, a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but
  • Its Not You
  • shows you it is possible. Dr. Ramani invites you to stop blaming yourself and trying to change the narcissistic person, and to start giving yourself permission to let go of their hold on you and finally embrace your true self.
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